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'ASK RHO' #66! "What Should I Do?"

2012-02-07T14:05:00.001-08:00

Ready To Get To Your Authenticity? I Am ... Truth Skill #1

2012-02-04T16:21:00.000-08:00

I will be sharing 10 Truth Skills from a book written by Susan Campbell, one skill at a time. It's called Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills You Need To Live An Authentic Life. We'll be going on this particular journey together, as I am reading and sharing.

Today's feature is truth skill #1: Experiencing what is

Do you ever start to feel something and then try to avoid feeling it? Maybe you tell yourself that the feeling is not appropriate, not reasonable, that it won't do any good, or any number of self-suppressing messages. But as long as you avoid experiencing whatever is calling out to be experienced, you will not heal. A part of you can get lost. By allowing yourself to feel and express, it can help with finding the root of your disappointment and/or pain. You can allow that energy to naturally flow again, and more peace can settle in.

Sometimes we just feel irritated by something someone did or said. But any time you feel something and then notice yourself trying to avoid feeling it, it's probably more significant than it appears. Most of us are watchful about avoiding painful feelings. So we must become equally watchful at noticing the control patterns of our minds - because to feel what we actually feel, perhaps something that we weren't strong enough to let ourselves fully experience in the past, allows us the possibility of becoming real.

Here's a Self-Assessment Quiz:

On a scale from 1 to 5 (with 1 being not very much and 5 being very much), how much does each statement apply to you?

1. I often find myself thinking about what I should do or should have done.
2. I like to think of reasons for or theories about why people do what they do.
3. I have an inner critic that won't quit.
4. I often find myself comparing what I'm doing now to how things were in the past.
5. I tend to measure what's happening now against how I wish things were.
6. If I start feeling something too intensely, I have way of cutting off those feelings.

If you scored mostly 3's, 4's, and 5's on this quiz, you probably spend a lot of time pursuing the "life of the mind". You tend to think instead of feel - you tend to compare, judge, or theorize instead of simply experiencing what is. Getting Real does not ask that you stop using your mind - simply that you use it in the service of real creation or survival (as opposed to the survival of your disguise or act.)

Experiencing what is consists of two important components: the "experiencing" part and the "what is" part. Experiencing what is demands that you set aside your beliefs about what should or shouldn't be going on, about what you wish were going on, what you expected, what you were prepared for, what you interpret, and what you judge as acceptable. These are all ways of maintaining an illusion of being in control. When you find yourself unable to stay with your feelings, you have an opportunity to see exactly what you're doing to avoid being present to what is.

Experiencing what is also helps you make the distinction between what it is that you actually experience (see, hear, sense, feel, notice, remember) and what you imagine (think, interpret, evaluate, believe). The ability to make the distinction between what you actually see, and the meaning you give to what you see is crucial to the work of Getting Real.

This is the first section of Truth Skill #1. The next installment will deal with "Experiencing what is In Your Relationships"

Until next time folks...

Rho

Join me today for Perspective's Corner with Rhona "Rho" Bennett!

2012-02-02T01:11:00.000-08:00

Celebrity hairstylist Larry Sims will be in-studio for an interview. Also, listen in on my conversation with 12yr old super talent Zaria Zakiya: my youngest interview with a champion yet ;-) 9pm (PST) on America Talk Live

Show #9 on America Talk Live!

2012-02-02T01:08:00.000-08:00

Hey, hey everybody... Did you catch last week's show? Topic of The Day: "Making Light of Something Heavy" with my special guests:

Carl Payne: Actor (star of the Cosby Show and Martin) / businessman

Jonnae Thompson: Up & coming comedienne ... She did a comedy set that night!

Vianessa Costanos: Actress/ Blogger sharing her insight and "Making Light of Something Heavy"

Original Tuskeegee Airman ... Col. Ernest Craigwell

2012-01-20T19:37:00.000-08:00

In 2010, for my family reunion, an original Tuskeegee Airman, Col. Ernest Craigwell spoke at our dinner about the great heroics of this prolific squadron.

Today, I saw the movie Redtails. It was a pleasure to see George Lucas and company's attempt at bringing their story to life.

Below is a picture that the Colonel and I took with him allowing me to hold his Medal of Honor. It makes me even more proud to have had the privilege. 84 years young is this picture! Great history...

Show #8 on America Talk Live!

2012-01-20T15:16:00.000-08:00

Today's Guests:

Drew Davidsen ~ Jazz artist nominated at the Oasis Contemporary Jazz Awards for Best New Artist 2011 and Best New Artist at the 2010 American Smooth Jazz Awards. He performed LIVE! Very talented...

Holly Robinson Peete ~ Actress: 21 Jump Street, For Your Love, Hanging With Mr. Cooper, One on One, The Talk and Celebrity Apprentice/Philanthropist. She candidly shared her inspiration. Enjoyable interview!

Today's Topic: Learning to Re-Invent Yourself

A Recipe for Being Great

2012-01-17T22:03:00.000-08:00

Jewels of wisdom from Wallace D. Wattles book "The Science Of Being Great"

Whatever you habitually think yourself to be, that you are. It's the habitual, not the periodical thought that decides your destiny.

It will avail you nothing (not be of use or value) to sit apart for a few moments several times a day to affirm that you are great, if during all the balance of the day, while you are about your regular vocation (occupation, business or profession), you think of yourself as not great. No amount of praying and affirmation will make you great if you still habitually regard yourself as being small. The use of prayer and affirmation is to change your habit of thought.

What you must do is to repeat the new thought of yourself until it is the only way in which you think of yourself. Habitual thought, and not environment or circumstance, has made you what you are.

Think of yourself as a perfect being among perfect beings, and meet every person as an equal, not as either superior or an inferior. Give yourself no airs (strong praise/mention); great people never do.

To become great, start by doing small things (at home, for work, with friends, family...wherever) in great ways.

It can become a welcome mat for greater things to come.

LiveBIG, LiveGREAT

Rho

Gain from Pain ~ Motivation ~ Live BIG

2012-01-16T10:53:00.000-08:00

How To Go from "Hater" to "Congratulater"

2012-01-15T21:35:00.000-08:00

I received this message from a Facebook buddy today:

"yesterday my twitter timeline was fill of ppl looking down on Tebow n his loss. Saying "where is your God now" and other things...and im not a fan of Tebow nor did i know who he is till this season but it got me thinking. When someone who has been successful falls people are so quick to judge and pick...same wn a celeb marriage fails or an athlete shows weakness. It reminds me of when the hs quarterback knocks up the head cheerleader...and im guilty of it too...just wondering why we do this?what about humans sparks this interest in others' shortcomings? sigh i worry too much lol" ~
Most people do the same thing...

I'm just getting to know about Tebow myself ... however I am aware that many people thought there was too much hype surrounding him. Whatever the case may be, here's my commentary about the bigger picture.

I was going to answer this on Facebook but I figured the post might get a bit long for the box. So I've decided to share my thoughts here. First, let me start with some statistics I became aware of through the book "177 Mental Toughness Secrets of The World Class"...

This is what was described in Steve Siebolds' book when it comes to Levels of Awareness

5% of population is Poverty-Class Consciousness (barely surviving, and living in a harsh set of circumstances)

10% of population is Working-Class Consciousness (punching a mental time clock, and counting the days to retirement. They're usually not expecting much, and people around them don't expect much either. They are typically not concerned about climbing any higher)

70% of population is Middle-Class Consciousness (They are operating at a high enough level to know that higher levels exist, but are unwilling to pay the price. Since this reality is too harsh to bear, they delude themselves into thinking they are doing everything in their power to get ahead. Of course they're not. They'll tell you they're putting in far more time than they are. They'll swear they're thinking about their vision all the time, but they're not.

10% of population is Upper-Class Consciousness (Similar to World Class characteristics, but it's ego driven)

5% of population is World-Class Consciousness (brutally honest with themselves and they tend to look reality in the face. They err on the side of over practicing and over preparing. Spirit driven)

I'm bringing out these statistics to show that most people are operating at Middle Class Consciousness or below. Meaning, they may want to be more, but don't have the means/ haven't done what it takes to get the means, and are more likely to talk critically about others who are. It's like living vicariously through someone else who is bold, courageous and gutsy enough to actually do it. It's easier to give lip service in the stands of a Broncos game than to actually be the guy picked from other stellar athletes to get the job done.

Talking about someone else whose taking that chance to put their skills, toughness and talent on the line to make a difference doesn't require much effort on the talkers part. The same thing happens with Beyonce, but when it comes down to it, she's putting in the work. She's living a vision. She's willing to get out in front of millions and give it everything she's got. How many people talking would freeze and throw up before they could step foot on that stage she dominates in her moments of shine?

Most aren't living to their full potential. In a subliminal way, it could be threatening their sense of self worth. Seeing a flaw in a champion can make most people more comfortable with their own shortcomings.

So how do people make the shift from "hater" to congratulate-r"? By coming into the understanding that we each have something unique and powerful to deliver. Then, get to the business of finding out what that is for yourself. Learn to appreciate someone living at their highest potential, and let it be the wind at your back to motivate you in discovering and allowing yours.

We can become so competitive that we forget that we're all intended to shine. The great mystics, sages and prophets all speak of collective Intelligence, Power and Love. I know that that day can seem far away from being manifested, but what a brilliant Light this place can be as we continue to come into this understanding...

Thank you for the post...xo

#LiveBIGGER

Rho

Become A Sponsor of Perspective's Corner with Rhona "Rho" Bennett today!

2012-01-15T19:33:00.000-08:00

Would you like more exposure for your product, brand or purpose? Check out this video and see if these packages can work for you. It would be a pleasure to have you on board!

Dhealthstore.com ~ A Sponsor for Perspective's Corner with Rhona "Rho" Bennett

2012-01-14T23:43:00.000-08:00

'ASK RHO' #65! "More MMC Stuff & A Teen Dealing w/ Racial Tension"

2012-01-14T14:49:00.000-08:00

Show #7 on America Talk Live!

2012-01-14T14:46:00.000-08:00

This is show #26 for Perspective's Corner. Join me, Harold S. Reed Jr. (Life Coach, motivational speaker, author) and Andre "DRE" Merritt (singer and songwriter for Chris Brown "Forever"/ Rihanna "Disturbia"/ Kelly Rowland/ Cheryl Cole/ Omarion "Entourage" and many more...)

Harold S. Reed Jr.

Andre "DRE" Merritt

Topic of the Day: Seeing A Vision Through

Great dialogue and a wonderful performance from DRE singing two songs from his CD "Elektrik City".

Show #6 on America Talk Live! Happy New Year!

2012-01-14T14:37:00.000-08:00

Team True Beauty, Jodie Sweetin and Michael Barlow helped me kick off the start of the new year, celebrating their first annual gala for the launch of their company. It was a great time and a great show... Enjoy!

Show #5 on America Talk Live!

2012-01-02T09:05:00.000-08:00

This is show #24 for Perspective's Corner currently featured on America Talk Live at 9pm (PST)! It's the last show of 2011!

Hear a fresh show with re-caps of two great interviews...

Monifah Carter ~ Entertainer

JC Chasez ~ 1/5 of pop super group N'sync and judge on America's Best Dance Crew

Got inspiration?

Join me Thursday (Jan 6) for a LIVE broadcast, jump starting 2012 with Team True Beauty, Amy Paffrath, and Jodie Sweetin (star of American classic sit-com Full House) in-studio; with a live performances from up and coming artist: Mykell and quadruple threat talent force: Jessie Payo

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Be Relentless in 2012 ... Aiming and Claiming

2011-12-31T21:30:00.000-08:00

Relentless ~ (of pace or sustained intensity) constant, perpetual, ceaseless

Are you ready to aim for your mark, and claim what you choose for yourself? Then be relentless. Be relentless about uncovering your greater potential. Be relentless about gathering the tools, skills, and necessary links to what would allow your victory. Be relentless in pursuing your goals. Be relentless in 'dusting yourself off and trying again'. Be relentless in growing in spite of someone telling you NO.

With so many distractions all over the place (T.V, addictions to drama, the abyss of the World Wide Web and so much more...), be relentless about your vision. Choose to see when no one else can see. Stay on your course. You'll never know what could have been if you don't KEEP GOING.

Be relentless. It's the trait of a champion.

Happy New Year ALL! #LiveBIGGER 2012

Rho

'ASK RHO' #64! "Should I Stay or Should I Leave?"

2011-12-28T14:43:00.001-08:00

Had some technical difficulties but it's here none-the-less!~Enjoy your visit!

My 4th Show on America Talk Live!

2011-12-26T15:10:00.000-08:00

Today's Topic: GO at 100%!

Featured guests:

Ne'J'cion Da Artist Davis ~ Up and coming R&B soul-sation sharing from the young guru within. Don't miss it!

Dr. Syleecia Thompson ~ Daughter of Soul/Blues veteran Syl Johnson and sister to Grammy nominated artist Syleena Johnson. Currently a Professor of Business at a college in New York, and president of Aneelys Entertainment; giving us some of her wisdom about the entertainment industry and doing better business.

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Become a Problem Solver to Earn More Money...

2011-12-17T12:15:00.000-08:00

Be a problem solver to earn more money. Why? Because most people are looking for ways to enhance their living, reduce stress, and enjoy more of life's experiences. A stress filled existence from not having more of what you need or desire, can zap your energy and/or cloud and weigh in on your mental clarity. If someone has a solution for something that you can use in your life that will eliminate or reduce your problem, would you find a way to get it? Most people will... If it's one less thing someone has to worry about on their plate, the probability of them paying for it is high.Your service, or delivery of that service, won't be for EVERYONE...but it IS for someone.

What problem can u solve for others? No matter the vocation (profession, business, divine service, etc...) Get great at solving that problem. Package it, market it & sell your service. Don't let the doom and gloom reports about the economy stop you from focusing on the opportunities all around us. Learn, then DO. Remain a student in life. Know that there's always more. Keep gathering more tools and information for knowledge of your craft, and growth from your life experience. Bring your best YOU to the table. It all starts from there.

KEEP GOING ... The difference between you and other successful people, is their willingness to P.U.S.H their "GO!" button in spite of past failure, fear, and change.

Live BIG, Live BOLD and Live FULLY

Rho

We had a Great Night at the station...

2011-12-16T13:07:00.000-08:00

Join me and my special guests every Thursday at 9pm(PST)on America Talk Live for more courage for the spirit and food for the soul!

'ASK RHO' #63! "Is All Fair In Love & Divorce?"

2011-12-14T11:21:00.000-08:00

December 15th w/ R&B crooner MARIO & special guest host GuyTorry

2011-12-13T20:56:00.000-08:00

Happy Holidays from Rhona "Rho" Bennett at Perspective's Corner!

2011-12-13T10:59:00.000-08:00

My 2nd Show on America Talk Live!

2011-12-12T15:25:00.000-08:00

This is show #21 for Perspective's Corner with Rhona "Rho" Bennett hosted at latalklive.com ~Today's Topic : “A Beautiful Struggle” Loving The Entertainment Business In Spite Of'

I have an interview with Miguel Nunez Jr. , who's starred in 'Juwanna Man', the movie 'Life' with Eddie Murphey & Martin Lawrence and many more credits to his name. We talk about his "beautiful struggle" and how he knew without a shadow of a doubt that he would be where he is today in his career.

I'm also doing a reprise of one of my favorite interviews on Perspective's Corner with Lindsey Alley. We spoke about her "beautiful struggle" and making art with it. It's authentic, it's entertaining and it's thought provoking.

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My 1st show on America (LA) Talk Live!

2011-12-03T09:14:00.000-08:00

Today's Topic: Energy Drainers

Today's Guest: Hill Harper ~ A champion in his own right talking about having a solid foundation, dealing with a life threatening diagnosis and giving great insight to live by.

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'ASK RHO' #62! "Favorite Movie, Actor/Actress, and Your Ideal Role!"

2011-11-30T00:05:00.000-08:00

'ASK RHO' #61! "Happy Thanksgiving "Belated" & What's On Your Christmas Wish List?"

2011-11-26T17:26:00.000-08:00

Did you know that Perspective's Corner has grown???

2011-11-23T00:58:00.000-08:00

'ASK RHO' #60! "Characteristic or Trait That's Most Useful On a Daily Basis"

2011-11-17T01:09:00.000-08:00

"The Art Of Shmoozing"

2011-11-11T22:50:00.000-08:00

If you add to your arsenal: 'being sincerely interested in the person in front of you' and 'listening', the sky isn't even the limit ;-)

'ASK RHO' #59! "How To Break Through"

2011-11-09T03:06:00.000-08:00

My Songbird and Inspiration...

2011-11-02T01:09:00.000-07:00

If you can somehow escape being captivated by the performer...listen to the message. This is your moment... Do you believe?

#LiveBIG

Rho

'ASK RHO' #58! "Let's Talk About Food! & What About Haunted Places?"

2011-11-01T22:54:00.000-07:00

The 8 Habits of Healthy Living

2011-11-01T10:41:00.000-07:00

by Leo Babauta

I don’t have health insurance, so I have a big investment in staying healthy.

And so I did a little research today — I found the top causes of death, then created a spreadsheet for the controllable risk factors for each.

Some things can’t be controlled (your age, family history of diseases, gender). But others can. And those things aren’t a huge surprise — you already know not to smoke, drink too much, or eat crappily.

It’s interesting, though, how all of the major diseases are caused by the same things: smoking, diet, exercise, alcohol and stress.

Below I’ll list the top habits you can change, and a simple method for changing them.

The 8 Habits of Healthy Living

1. Stop smoking. This is by far the most important habit, as it affects almost every single one of the leading causes of death. It’s also the hardest of these habits to change. It’s not at all impossible — I quit six years ago next month (read my tips).

2. Lose weight (if you’re overweight). This is not exactly a habit — the best habit to form to lose weight is to eat less. Or eat more of things that don’t have a lot of calories, like fruits and veggies. Being overweight is just below smoking the worst risk factor for many diseases.

3. Exercise. You don’t need me to tell you to exercise, but listen to this: lack of exercise is a major risk factor for heart disease, stroke, colon & rectal cancers, diabetes, breast cancer, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. If you don’t exercise, you’re just asking to get a major disease. It’s almost a magic pill: do a bit of exercise every day, and you get healthy. You don’t need much — start with 5 minutes a day in the morning.

4. Drink only in moderation. Heavy drinking is one of the worst risk factors for many diseases. That’s more than 2 drinks of alcohol a day for men, and more than 1 drink for women. A glass of red wine is a good thing, but too many and you’re greatly increasing your risk of disease.

5. Cut out red & processed meats. Eating red meats, and processed meats like sausages, bacon, canned meats and so on, is a risk factor for colon/rectal cancer, stomach cancer, and high cholesterol, which in turn is a leading risk factor for coronary heart disease and stroke. While this won’t sit well with many people, the overwhelming mass of research supports this. I recommend going vegetarian.

6. Eat fruits & veggies. This is obvious, but it’s amazing how few veggies most people eat. Eating fruits and veggies reduces your risk of several leading diseases, and it’s one of the easiest habits to form. Eat a salad (without heavy dressings, bacon or other meats, croutons or cheese), add veggies to soups or veggie chili, cook up veggies as a healthy side dish with dinner or lunch. Eat fruits with breakfast and as snacks.

7. Reduce salt, and saturated/trans fats. Salt and saturated or trans fats are in so many processed or prepared foods, and they increase risks of high blood pressure and high cholesterol, which increase risk for heart disease and stroke. Despite what the Weston Price Foundation and other people on the Internet tell you, saturated fat isn’t healthy — read the sources. Note that this isn’t a controversy in the medical community, but the “harmlessness” of saturated fats is perpetuated by the diary and meat industries, and lay writers like Gary Taube. Cook your own healthy meals instead of eating out or eating prepared foods.

8. Reduce stress. Stress is a risk factor for heart disease and high blood pressure, which is itself a risk factor for stroke. Simplify your workday so that you’re not overly stressed, and exercise to relieve stress.
How to Form the Habits

This might seem like a lot to change, if you’re not already doing these things, but let me share something with you: I changed all of these in the last 6 years.

In 2005, I was incredibly unhealthy. Then I learned to change my habits, and slowly I:

* Quit smoking.
* Started running.
* Became vegan.
* Lost 70 lbs.
* Cleaned up my diet and got rid of unhealthy stuff.
* Simplified my life and reduced stress.
* Cut drinking down to 1-2 glasses of red wine a day.

I did it, and so can you. I changed one habit at a time, slowly, in tiny tiny steps, and it wasn’t hard. Don’t try to change everything, and don’t make it hard on yourself. It’s actually very easy if you’re patient and if you just start.

Here’s how to change these habits:

* Change only one habit at a time. It doesn’t matter which habit you choose. Just choose one. You’ll want to do more than one, but don’t.
* Create positive habits you enjoy. Read the last word again — if you enjoy it, the habit change will be easy. Replace smoking with positive habits you enjoy that fulfill the needs that smoking now fulfills (stress reduction, social lubrication, boredom relief, etc.). Replace red meats with healthy foods you enjoy.
* Start as small as possible. Just do 5 minutes the first week, and try to be consistent as possible. Then do 10 minutes. Small change is by far the most effective method I’ve used for changing habits. Slow change lasts.
* Make it social. Find a partner or group to change the habit with you, so you’re more likely to stick with it.

These work. I’ve done them many times, and every time I stick to these principles, I’ve changed a habit.

Healthy living isn’t impossible, or even especially difficult. It’s just slower to come by than most people care for.

... from the blog Zen Habits

#LiveWELL

Rho

'ASK RHO' #57! "Gaddafi's Death and the Phenomena of Technology"

2011-10-25T23:11:00.000-07:00

'ASK RHO' #56! "How Do I Stay On Track Spiritually w/ People From My Past?"

2011-10-18T17:44:00.001-07:00

Snippets From The T-Boz Interview!!!

2011-10-17T21:31:00.000-07:00

This interview was loaded with gems from T Boz... here are a few ;-)

Feel Free To Leave A Comment For Show #18 of Perspective's Corner!

2011-10-15T17:33:00.000-07:00

Have you heard the latest edition of Perspective's Corner yet???

I've had the honor and privilege of interviewing one of our favorite stars. Miss Tionne 'T-Boz' Watkins from the ever popular 4 time Grammy Award winning group TLC, has shared some of her story to inspire us at Perspective's Corner.

We talked about the sudden death of Lisa 'Left Eye' Lopez and the transition of the group; her life long experience with medical adversity; her adoration and defense of pop icon Michael Jackson; and the future of TLC...

Don't miss this interview giving us a peek inside the mind and heart of a champion.

Enjoy your visit! ---> The Heart & Mind Of A Champion

You can also download the shows at itunes under Rhona Bennett ~ If you're 'on the go!', just put http://rho.podbean.com/mobile into your smart phone browser and listen in!

Here's a link to the Perspective's Corner web talk-show page! ---> Perspective's Corner

You don't have to wait for the next level... CREATE IT

Rho

The 11th Commandment? "Love One Another"

2011-10-12T21:52:00.000-07:00

I just finished a Skype phone call with my mentor. He's been on the planet for 72yrs and truly believes that we are spiritual beings in the human form. He and I met not too long ago, and since then, we have connected on so many levels. The more we interact, the more I believe that we're helping each other heal our human nature and create on new levels. I did some growing tonight. It inspired this blog...

Are you dealing with an issue right now...a hiccup in your relationship, negativity with a co-worker, anger with your children, distance from a loved one? Are you at your wits end with trying to find a solution? Do you feel exhausted by the situation? If you asked yourself... "What would love do?", what are some of the ideas that come forth into your mind to think about? If you didn't let your ego get the best of you... how would you approach the person or situation?

More thoughts...

Are you beating up on yourself for some short-comings you feel you have? How is it affecting your ability to communicate with others? Are you being defensive, uptight, stubborn, closed minded, and/or in the blame game because of what's really coming from within? If you allowed yourself to embody a meek strength like a blade of grass that yields in a hurricane, instead of the strength of a strong tree that snaps under pressure in that same storm; how then could your outcome be different?

I'm asking these questions to probe the "real" you. Not the made up you with all the social masks and penned up fear. I'm talking about the authentic you tucked behind it all, just wanting to be loved and be love. I have the notion that we're all needing a healing from our coverings over our authentic selves. The masks can get in the way and stop a softer more flexible us from getting a loving squeeze.

It starts with loving ourselves. What does that mean? Well I believe it involves learning how to abandon the relentless self judgment and criticism; letting go of what doesn't feel good or is holding you back so that you can open up to more joy; releasing the tight grip we have on 'pop culture' so we can see beyond the box it puts us in; and a willingness to heal from our many emotional scars so that we can open up to more love in others and everything around us.

From there, I believe... we can do a more thorough job of "loving one another".

xo,
Rho

'ASK RHO' #55! "Help Me Not To Give Up"

2011-10-11T20:57:00.001-07:00

Come Smile With Us at Perspective's Corner for show #17 "Empowered Women"!

2011-10-09T00:18:00.000-07:00

Miss Aisha Francis... the creator of 'Pump Camp' and 'A Sexier You' is currently featured at Perspective's Corner for show #17 "Empowered Women"! Check out her work below... then visit rhonabennett.com for the interview!

The celebrity hairstylist and creator of Kimble Hair Care Systems, Kim Kimble, is also being featured at Perspective's Corner for show #17 "Empowered Women"! Check out her work below and visit rhonabennett.com to hear her interview.

'ASK RHO' #54! 'Self-Employed and Looking to De-Stress'

2011-10-04T18:56:00.000-07:00

Feed Back for Show #16 'Finding YOUR Truth' on Perspective's Corner!

2011-09-30T10:59:00.000-07:00

Hey, hey everybody! Do yourself a favor and tune in to Perspective's Corner show #16 today... The Tony Award Winning/Def Poetry Jam star Black Ice is sharing from HIS truth.

Today's Topic: Finding YOUR Truth

We talked about his dynamic upbringing and family, the Troy Davis verdict, whether he believes in ONE humanity, going beyond fear and so much more.

The revolution will not be televised... because it happens within

You can leave your comments about the show below... Let the dialogue begin~!

Rho

'ASK RHO' #53! 'MMC Stuff! and Am I Wrong For Dis-Liking My Co-Worker?'

2011-09-21T13:07:00.000-07:00

Got Change?

2011-09-20T08:19:00.000-07:00

A lot of the times, we'll approach a situation and/or relationship with the same 'skill set' we've been using for years and wonder why the outcome doesn't really advance us toward our desired goal or way of feeling. Do you think it's time to explore outside of what may be comfortable for you? Could it also be time to minimize contact with or disassociate from people or things that don't allow you to grow?

If you're looking to change something in your life: Starting with the same level of awareness (mind-set) that got you there in the first place will only repeat the results you already have. It's time to gather more information (via books, mentors, seminars, skills, etc), let go of what's not working (stop beating the proverbial dead horse), and/or learn something new (ways of thinking or being) to grow your ability and get the different results you're looking for.

Albert Einstein put it pretty clearly: You can't keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Are you willing to open up to more of what life has to offer? Are you willing to let go of some stale points of view that may be outdated and need replacement? How about stepping outside of your 'current box' (way of perceiving) to do it? It's gonna take some initiative, your re-directed focus, and your commitment to a fresher way of thinking to get things on track.

A quick and shortened version of a story about commitment from a book by Walter Hailey: His family was sitting at the breakfast table in their quaint Texan home on their farm. The father told him something that sticks with him to this day. He said, 'Son, the chicken made a contribution to this breakfast'. He was referring to the eggs they were eating. Then he said, 'The pig though, made a commitment'. There's no turning back from being bacon!

Well... that's what it takes when you're looking for real change (or success). A commitment...

It always up to you! Here's to living BIG.

Rho

WOW!!! So grateful... Thank YOU! xo

2011-09-15T23:57:00.000-07:00

*GASP!* Thank you so much Evin Gibson, Cedric Bankston, Harold S. Reed Jr., Michael Ellington, Tony Scott Zubia, Edith and everyone who even thought of contributing. This was totally unexpected, and I think I watched it with my mouth open. Thank YOU for this beautiful gift! xo

'ASK RHO' #52! Year Anniversary_Sexual Abuse

2011-09-13T17:36:00.000-07:00

'Trusting Your Experience' ... A Beautiful Entry About Meditation

2011-09-13T08:38:00.000-07:00

I remember when I took 'the leap' into this form of meditation... It felt bold, courageous and exciting. Any hesitation was outweighed by the benefit of 'trusting my gut'. I just went for it... and it's been quite the journey ever since... There's no specific pose you have to put your body in. You just find a comfortable position, chant your mantra given by your guru (teacher), and let the experience begin. Sometimes it feels deep and tranquil...other times I feel scattered and alert. None-the-less, it's my voyage to Self-discovery, and it's worth it. Read on, and see if this blog entry from "Jeff" helps and inspires you... All the best

Rho

***

Sometimes I forget how absurd it sounded when I first heard it. Adele came to me and said, "Our friend, R., went to this guy. He gave her a word. She repeats it silently to herself and it makes her happy."

"Huh." Non-committal response from me.

"He's coming back to town. We should go see him."

"Let me know how that works out for you." I wasn't going to waste my time. I'd already been to India, twice. I'd studied with a couple of orange-robed guys. I'd learned meditation from them, and yoga with them before there were yoga studios everywhere. Everybody, it seemed, had an agenda. Everyone had an angle. All they wanted was to separate me from my money. Maybe I was miserable, but I wasn't going to be a sap along with it.

And of course Adele talked me into going to the talk.

Actually, we went to the apartment where the talk was to take place, in West Hollywood. We were greeted, we sat down. I looked around at the people there, at the photos of holy men arrayed around the room, and I said something to the effect of, "Sorry. I can't hang. I'll pick you up in an hour." No, I'll go with you said Adele, and we went back out the door while others were still coming in, before the guy even came out to give his talk. And later that week another friend of ours called and said, "I saw the guy. He gave me a word. I repeat it inside and it makes me happy."

Okay. Fine. I give up. Let me know when he comes back.

So a month later, we went back to the place in West Hollywood. We took another couple with us. We sat through the talk. It was really quite good. The teacher was charming, funny, informative, very well-spoken--splitting no infinitives, dangling no participles. I thoroughly enjoyed it, right up until the man who'd come with us heckled the speaker during the question and answer section of the program, from a religious bias (I never have seen this happen since), at which point the teacher said he thought that it would be good to stop there and left us there with his assistant to sign up to learn the meditation, or not.

The four of us left, none of us signing up. We went up the street to an Indian restaurant and discussed why we weren't going to do it.

When we got home, R. called us and asked if we were going to learn. No, said Adele. Jeff doesn't want to. R. got me on the phone and took me to task a bit, heard the issues I had, then gave me a number to call. It was nearly midnight, but at R.'s insistence, I called. It was the teacher from the talk that evening. He remembered me because of my smiling and nodding during his talk, relating to what he was saying, but perhaps even more so because he saw I'd come with the heckler. Embarrassing.

"What are your issues," he asked.

"Well, the fact that I have to pay for it," I said. "I've always thought you weren't supposed to have to pay for spiritual knowledge."

"You can't possibly pay for the practice itself," replied the teacher. "The practice is beyond value. What you're paying for is my availability as a teacher, and for my expertise. You paying for my time allows me to continue coming to L.A. and teaching, rather than having to get a job in a hardware store in Topeka." (I'm not sure why he chose Topeka. I think he just liked the idea of his having to go all the way to Kansas to make a living, which would be much too far for me to go to learn meditation.) "Also," he continued, "in order for transformation to take place in consciousness, there must be an exchange of energy and information. From your side, you're bringing your time, your commitment and your attention, along with your course fee; and from mine, I am bringing to you my 35 years of teaching experience, my expertise and my availability to you as a teacher, not just for this week, but on into the future, whenever you need my help."

"Okay. I guess that makes sense."

"And what was your other concern?"

"Oh. Yeah, "I said. "The fact that I don't know if it's going to work or not. The fact that I don't want to be played for a fool. It all sounds good, but maybe too good to be true. I don't want to be Jack, going to town and trading our cow for magic beans. You know? There's no way I can know what I'm getting into until I do the course. And I have to commit to the course before I can get the practice and know anything about what I'm getting into."

"I understand," he said.

"It's hard to trust people in this area. I've been burned before."

He replied, "And what I would tell you is to trust your experience."

"What do you mean?" I asked.

"Trust your experience. As you were listening to me at the intro talk tonight, how did it feel? Did it feel somehow right, or did it feel like you were being sold a bill of goods? Did you find yourself having to stop and question whether something felt true or not, or did you find yourself able to relax and enjoy my talk? That's it," he finished. "Trust your experience."

"Oh."

"So? How did it feel?"

"I... It felt good, I guess. I enjoyed it. It felt right, yeah, and like it was familiar. It sounded like the way I'd always thought things should work."

"So then trust your experience."

"Damn," I said. "I guess that means I have to learn?"

He laughed. "Yes, I guess it does. What time do you want to come in tomorrow?"

So the next day I took my fruit and my flowers and the all-too-exorbitant course fee, based upon a week's earnings, back to the apartment in West Hollywood. I gave my check to the money man. I watched the teacher make a ceremony with the fruit and the flowers, singing the Sanskrit words of the puja. When it came my turn, I went into a side room with him and he gave me my word. Then we all sat together and he showed me how to repeat the word, silently, inside.

And of course, it made me happy. I think I might even have wept with relief.

The universe operates on a fairly simple and simple to understand basis. When we have had the experience of getting in touch with a part of self that is other than the ego, i.e. when we have contacted the field of pure being within, we then begin to trust some inner compass as to what we should or should not do on a moment to moment basis. It is the simplest system imaginable, and it works like this: if something feels right, it's probably right. If something feels wrong, it's probably wrong. That which feels 'right' simply feels better, more pleasurable than that which feels wrong.

This is trusting our experience. Getting a nudge from charm, a nudge from the universe that says 'go here,' and then just going, rather than thinking it to death trying to prove or disprove the wisdom of following the nudge we felt. We go. Life tells us to leap, and we leap. Before we know where we're going to land. And if we don't like where we land, then we simply leap again.

Leaping into that first day of meditation felt huge. Felt dangerous and scary and exciting. Like maybe I was betting the farm. But the farm is safe, and the payoff has been unimaginable. There is the life I had before I learned to meditate, and there is the life I have since learning. I can't begin to tell you the differences. Suffice it to say that they are utterly different experiences, utterly different lives. As if I'd had a nearly complete formula for transformation, primed and ready to be put into action, and this meditation was the final, missing ingredient. The recipe is complete.

Today I will trust my experience and do something that feels right, even though it may not make perfect sense to me.

You can sign up for Jeff's daily mediation posts here: http://www.jeffkobermeditation.com/index.php

Live well!

'ASK RHO' #51! "Rat Fetishes?... and Learning to Love Someone You Hate"

2011-09-08T21:13:00.000-07:00

Perspective's Corner Forum for Show #13 feat. Harold S. Reed Jr. and Jackie Christie

2011-09-03T01:40:00.000-07:00

This discussion is in reference to Show #13 of Perspective's Corner featuring Harold S. Reed Jr. & Jackie Christie. What are your thoughts on prosecuting 14yr old Alvin Diaz as an adult for murder? Is this what's best? What are some alternatives? Thanks for your feedback... You can visit http://rho.podbean.com to hear the podcast!

(If you're having difficulty responding to this thread, try using the anonymous option and just sign your name at the bottom of your response. Thanks again...)

'ASK RHO' #50! From Pain to Gain

2011-08-30T22:05:00.000-07:00

'ASK RHO' #49! Mouse Club, Paranormal Activity, Nudist Colony?!

2011-08-26T17:33:00.000-07:00

People Like This Need To Be Heard~ Powerful!

2011-08-22T12:22:00.000-07:00

Is Someone Elses Approval In The Way Of YOUR Dream?

2011-08-20T22:19:00.000-07:00

Have you been discouraged because friends, family members and/ or colleagues aren't as enthusiastic about your new endeavor as you are? Are you allowing that to stop you from sticking with it? Is your passion for it starting to become less because you don't feel the kind of support you'd like to feel about it?

How many dreams, great ideas, and forward movement has been lost due to looking for approval outside of ourselves to take the next step towards what we'd like to accomplish? What if it has nothing to do with them? What if it all stems from you?

It is more than helpful to be clear about what we have to offer, so that we can think and move confidently towards what we desire. Sometimes you might need to totally self inspire, and let your work and dedication motivate others to become believers in due time. If your vision, cause, idea, ect... is worth it to you, it's nothing a little perseverance can't cure.

Are you willing to do the work? Research thoroughly about your product/idea; practice your talent/sharpen your ability; remain a hungry student of life; open yourself to new ways of thinking and being creative; continue releasing the fear of being wrong so that you can get it right. Allow the 'real' you to show up in your work, and know that it will receive acceptance from your perfect audience/buyers as you "press on".

Have the courage to be honest with yourself, and let go of what's not working in your life; so that you can have access to more energy, more focus and more support, that will work for you. Make the sometimes tough decision to break old habits that keep you stuck and surrounded by people and things that are working against your flow. Assist yourself by putting things around you that can help you stay on track.

KEEP GOING no matter what. I'll see you at the top ;-)

Rho

'ASK RHO' #48! What's The Foundation Of True Happiness?

2011-08-17T00:47:00.000-07:00

Perspective's Corner Is On itunes!!!

2011-08-09T23:24:00.000-07:00

I am proud to announce that my listeners "on the go" can finally download the podcasts for Perspective's Corner on itunes! Go to the itunes store online, click on podcasts, put Rhona Bennett into the search engine and there it is ;-) An app for Androids is on the way! You can also visit my new podbean page for all episodes of the show conveniently located on the web...

Thanks for your support and helping me spread the word... My vision for Perspective's Corner continues to grow every day. It's here to inspire the champion in us all. I'm glad to have you on board for the journey.

Rho

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'ASK RHO' #47! Racism... Will It Ever Go Away?

2011-08-09T18:02:00.001-07:00

'ASK RHO' #46! Homophobia, Spirituality, My Fans!

2011-08-03T23:07:00.001-07:00

Will We See You There?

2011-07-30T12:58:00.000-07:00

Thank you for the support!

'ASK RHO' #45! "The Art Of Surrender"

2011-07-27T15:34:00.000-07:00

Choosing A Path to Enlightenment...Leaning On Something Greater

2011-07-24T16:09:00.000-07:00

I've been reading one of my favorite books today. Each time I pick it up, more jewels are given to me. I remember the first time I read it, I finished in 2 days! That was huge for me. I'd never read a book that many pages (300) so fast! My spirit was inspired and wanted the information as fast as it could come in. It was so confident and powerful in its approach to my understanding and connection to holistic living.

My experience continues to show me that this is an ongoing process. I can really relate to the statement that "we're spiritual beings, having a human experience." Learning about and dealing with the ego, has been quite the journey for me. We're all here being impressed upon by the world of comparisons and judgments; and contributing to this tangled web of co-existence with different experiences necessary for our souls. The more I dive into the understanding of who I really am, the more I realize that there's so much more to know.

Surrendering to this pathway of living has had its ups, downs and everything in between. As we continue to evolve and allow our perspective's to be expanded, life will continue to serve up the next best dish for our growth. Can we learn to trust in digesting this spiritual nutrition? In the midst of this can come ~ fear: the feeling or condition of being afraid. This can happen for several reasons, but a few main ones are... learning to embrace the unknown; sacrificing the ego for unconditional love and forgiveness; and forgetting to lean on and allow forth the great omnipresence of Spirit which trumps our own limited understanding of things. Choosing to allow yourself to be moved beyond the ego can be one of the most challenging journeys to embark on, yet it's also what helps us to experience real freedom.

The moment I forget and start to lean solely on my own understanding, fear can settle in and confusion can take over. Once I go back to the foundation of spiritual consciousness and the practice of its principles, it leads me into a place of more acceptance and surrender to something greater trying to express to me and through me.

There are several pathways we can travel to experience spiritual enlightenment. With intention and conviction of the heart to seek it, a journey all your own will unfold from there. Here's to having more courage, and experiencing more joy during your pilgrimage.

xo,

Rho

'ASK RHO' #44! "Tough Roommates"

2011-07-19T23:38:00.000-07:00

The Power Of Encouragement...

2011-07-14T00:41:00.000-07:00

Have you noticed that when you give genuine praise (ie; a pat on the back for a "job well done", public appreciation to someone, or a simple "thank you"), it can strengthen relationships and improve the performance/confidence in the other person? A lot of us might not realize the impact that encouragement can have on the human spirit and our ability to push beyond the average, live up to our standards and create a more agreeable environment. Some of the most powerful and effective leaders of the past and present have realized how the potency of encouragement can inspire the best in others. Whether you're dealing with a friend, spouse, family member, colleague, or even a stranger, the great power of positive/constructive feedback is exponential in its reach, and can work wonders in generating an atmosphere that breeds excellence.

Everyone wants to feel loved, appreciated and accepted to some degree. Have you noticed that when someone gives you an honest compliment, it can boost your sense of confidence and capabilities? The boss, the employee, the family member, the friend, etc... may not need encouragement, but statistics show that once it's given, it can boost someones performance and unleash greater potential. They can benefit from it as much as you. Have you also noticed that when one person opens up from that space of appreciation, it can inspire the other person to do the same? Next thing you know, a new chord of respect and consideration is born, which can motivate all parties to care deeper and accommodate one another.

Encouraging the heart produces more courage in someone. It can open the door to more creative freedom and innovative thinking. It can give more meaning to whatever they're doing and speak to their values and sense of self-worth. Aren't you willing to do more for the person that you feel cares about you and takes the time to acknowledge your solid efforts? A beautiful momentum can happen and put you in one of the most powerful emotions that supports your joy: GRATITUDE.

Encouragement elevates the spirit. Try giving to others what you would like to experience for yourself. The influence of encouragement can't be priced. Its value is ever expanding as you continue to give and receive more. Let the reward of recognizing others, open up a world of infinite possibility for you ... Keep your heart open to love and live BIG.

If you're looking for the good, you will find it... Will you share what you've found?

Rho

'ASK RHO' #43! "Friend and Lovers"

2011-07-13T18:44:00.000-07:00

'ASK RHO' #42! The Casey Anthony Trial

2011-07-05T19:11:00.000-07:00

Happy 4th Of July!!!

2011-07-04T11:09:00.000-07:00

Have a safe and GREAT one!

Feeling Discouraged? KEEP GOING...

2011-07-02T21:27:00.000-07:00

I've been having an interesting week. I can't remember what day I woke up and started feeling a bit scared. There are a lot of emotions I've been processing, and I'm still in the midst of it all. I started to judge myself, and over-think the process of things. I became concerned about ME. Ha! Boy that mental chatter box can sneak in and start making a home for itself if you don't stay aware and make some new choices about what to focus on.

So what am I doing in the meantime? I'm making it OK that it's happening. Meaning: I'm accepting that it's here. I know that "this too shall pass". Sometimes we're gonna hit strides of forward movement; other times we might feel like we're standing still or even going backwards. No matter where you are though, KEEP GOING.

We might need to "get still" (ie: take some private time, meditate, pray, do nothing) to allow some insight to settle in to our thinking. Taking that time is also apart of forward movement. Could this moment be happening to strengthen me? Is it another opportunity to support myself in "being myself"? Is it time to possibly shed more layers of what isn't authentic about me? Whatever it is, it can be a chance to grow if I choose to look at it that way...

There are going to be peaks, valley's and plateaus along our path to continued enlightenment. Being in a "state of allowance"/"making it OK" is healthy to do when faced with these moments. One of the things that's always a constant, is change. Embracing the mystery of that can be scary. It can also be an adventure. How do you choose to see it?

I'm allowing myself to feel what I feel, and I'm also remembering that through it all, I still have the power of choice on my side. I can choose to keep my focus on what I desire for me, and I can also look right here, in the NOW, for what IS working for me. I can also look for things that will support me; and find the right energy to surround myself with while I "grow" through this.

Why KEEP GOING? Because pressing on in spite of our discouragement, could be just what we need to do to prepare us for what we desire. Is it scary sometimes? Yes. Can it feel heavy sometimes? Yes. Can it be confusing? Yes. Can it make you second guess yourself? Yes. Regardless of these feelings, don't let the mental chatter box defeat you. Remember that we're the the captains of our ship; and changing the way we see things, is a great power that we own. Are you worth it? YES. On the other side of our discouragement, is victory.

Looks like I'm popping in a comedy tonight!

***

7/4/11- Everyday is a new beginning! I hope everyone is well... I love this quote from Evin (Team R&B)... "Discouragement is a very powerful thing. Those feelings can be just as strong as the feelings you have for excitement, love, and joy. Thanks for the light Rho. I know that if we want to locate our full potential it's always right behind our greatest fear. Time and hard work is like sun to its flower."

A few tips to remember: Change your focus; change your language; change your physiology (what you're doing with your body) to change your experience in the moment.

All the best,
Rho

'ASK RHO' #41!

2011-06-28T16:34:00.000-07:00

Making It Happen... Your Dream, Your Push, Your Go!

2011-06-25T20:07:00.000-07:00

Some people might call it taking a 'leap of faith'. Others may say, "if not you, then who?" One that I've subscribed to lately is, "if you want it done right, do it yourself". That's not to say that you can't accept or ask for help if you need it, yet it is saying that you're making yourself responsible for the product or result you're looking for. By doing that, it can take us out of the blame game and strengthens the go-getter in you.

Depending on who are, that could feel like an overwhelming position to take based on your level of confidence, work ethic and habits. However, I think it's a very powerful thing to do for yourself because it puts you more in charge of your destiny. Our decisions define our destiny.

In studying champions, I look for common denominators: traits, characteristics, habits, mind-sets and/or skills that enable them to excel in their endeavors. Below are a few of them I'm continuing to encounter that I'd like to share.

Hard work: If you're immune to hard work, achieving your goals could be few and far between; and even when you do land the job, get the part, or open the store (etc.), more than likely you will not have the tools (traits and habits) to maintain what you've gotten. In the midst of that could be some entitlement issues for people as well. They think that just because they want it, it should be theirs, or they should be successful. This can work for you and against you. It can work for you because it dissolves a feeling of being undeserving, and it can strengthen your vision of having it because you believe you can. It can work against you by making you overly confident (to the point of cockiness) which can make you hard to work with, and lazy if you haven't developed the behavior of perseverance through taking consistent action towards your goals. All this hard work, and these hard knocks can be training you to operate at the level of your successful peers and beyond.

Belief in yourself: If you don't believe you're capable or have the talent for what you desire, maybe it's time to either gather some confidence or choose a more suitable goal. You can encounter many people, circumstances, and feelings of self-doubt while on your journey to success. They can challenge the best in you. If your belief in yourself is low, the possibility of your dreams' manifestation will be the same.

Being unstoppable: Perseverance can not be underestimated. It is the thick and thin of accomplishing your desires. Without continued focus, determination, drive and commitment... the bottom of the grand canyon could be closer to you than making your goal happen.

I recently was pushed beyond my comfort zone to get some results I was looking for. Instead of going into some thought vortex of feeling victimized, or receiving a Self-Pity award with the "woe is me" speech, I took some initiative by making a new choice. As a society, we're used to pointing the finger, instead taking responsibility for ourselves and shifting our focus, language and intention towards the thing/s we do desire. It can take a lot of practice to get there, and I'm endorsing that it's worth it ;-)

Anything that challenges us is offering an opportunity for growth and expansion into greater potential. It can open our eyes to our weaknesses and our strengths. It can catapult us into greater creativity because it's forcing us to explore other possibilities and develop what's needed to seize them. It's giving us a chance to look at our inner workings, find a refreshed perspective, and dig deep for what it takes to make a change.

Although I've shared some common denominators, nothing can account for the you factor. Whatever is within you that is to be healed, shared, nurtured, evolved, etc... will be your own curriculum to work on. These are the things that make your journey all your own, and enhance your story. We each have something unique to add to how life happens.

If none of our journey is taken for granted, it can continue to shape us, teach us, and enable soul growth.

All the best to each of you while you take consistent, more courageous and focused steps towards the life you choose to live.

Be well,

Rho

The Official Web Site Is Now Launched!!!

2011-06-23T19:50:00.000-07:00

Visit rhonabennett.com to see my official web site ~ home of the brand for Rhona Bennett! I appreciate your patience and support while I've taken a small hiatus to put in some work!

ALL shows for Perspective's Corner are archived and available for you to hear at the site. The 4th episode is being featured on the web page NOW! My special guests are: Crush Foster (Juice Hugger) and Dollphace (True Vision Media Group).

Up next... Brandy (Singer) and Tony Gaskins Jr. (Motivational Speaker/Author)

Enjoy!

Rho

Perspective's Corner Show Is Taking A Short Break

2011-06-13T23:29:00.000-07:00

***ALERT*** I'm making some changes to the hosting site for Perspective's Corner. There will be a short break before the next broadcast. Thank you for your patience... I will be re-broadcasting the FULL show featuring my special guests: Crush Foster and DollPhaceMusic ... Coming soon

Crush Foster (Founder and Co-CEO of Juice Hugger)

and...

Dollphace (CEO of True Vision Media Group)

Don't miss MORE tips for living BIG!

'ASK RHO' #40!

2011-06-08T15:29:00.000-07:00

I'm Going To Malaysia!!!

2011-06-06T11:53:00.000-07:00

I'm doing a concert in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia! I look forward to taking pictures and video. I haven't been the best at capturing trips in the past, but I hope to do a better job this time around ;-) I will be doing a special edition of 'ASK RHO' video blog for Tuesday! Thank you for sending any questions or comments to askrho@gmail.com ... All the best to each of you! xo

This is where I'll be staying... How cool is that?

They also have a theme park!

Today's Guests On Perspective's Corner...

2011-06-03T00:50:00.000-07:00

Tanjareen (Actress/ Model/ Host/ Celibate Nympho Chronicles)

and...

JC Chasez ( 1/5 of superstar pop band N'Sync/ America's Best Dance Crew)

Featured at http://www.letstalkyall.com

'ASK RHO' #39! Dating Websites and Miss R&B's Album

2011-05-31T18:01:00.000-07:00

Are Taxes Legal??? What Is Fascism? Do You Know What's In The Patriot Act?

2011-05-31T14:15:00.000-07:00

The documentary 'From Freedom to Fascism' by Aaron Russo is powerful and sobering. I give him kudos for his courage in questioning the 'powers that be', and revealing a system and way of life worth investigating. Are we supposed to pay taxes? What is fascism? What is the 'Patriot Act' really? Watch the video below and 'think' for yourself.

I hope that you can allow this information to push out more fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) and usher in more understanding; taking us out of the illusion of separation, and helping us realize the benefit in coming together and being empowered with knowledge. My intention in posting this video is not to breed more cynicism of the system, but to open our hearts and minds to another way of thinking and being. This type of information continues to remind me of putting my attention on the Light... (knowledge, authenticity, peace within, harmony, personal power, Self development and cultivating a potent relationship with the Creator of Love).

Live BIG or transition trying... All the best to each of you

Rho

What does "The revolution will not be televised." mean? Thank you Gil Scott-Heron for your willingness to expose the fallacies of the social norm, and wake up all who would listen. R.I.P

Light and Dark... A Cultural Division

2011-05-26T13:23:00.000-07:00

One of my FB buddies sent the link below to me... She and I had discussed the division, stereotypes and underlying prejudices in black culture before. I read a book called "Don't Play In The Sun" by Marita Golden, and I was shocked by how deep seated the pain was for this darker skinned woman. It affected practically every decision she made, and the hard work she had to put in for self-esteem. It opened my eyes to a whole other world for dark and light skinned women. I think both sides can deal with extreme positions regarding their skin tone and the misconceptions attached.

One of the first things that can happen when developing an opinion about this, is to meet the subject with more judgment. It seems that this is more of an issue than most would like to admit. People also commented about how we (Blacks) keep perpetuating the same problem through self-hate and bringing forward the slave mentality. Some don't like to see the European influence on our beauty...etc.

I think a step towards healing in this area, is finding a way to be compassionate towards the choices we've already made. A lot of them were born of fear. Altering our appearances to fit within the brainwashing of so called "standard beauty" is a bi-product of societal programming. More judging of that could cause more division. What if we embrace each other right where we are; nappy hair, fake hair, skinny nose, fat nose and looked for the beauty in every shade? As corny and cliche as it might sound... in love is the revolution.

Hopefully this dialogue will help with some much needed healing, and a healthier shift in our perspective's.

Live well,

Rho

'ASK RHO' #38!

2011-05-24T19:37:00.001-07:00

What's Your Motivation?

2011-05-22T21:33:00.000-07:00

If love was the force behind your next move... What would it look like?

Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of Heaven. Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of hell.- Jewels from A Return To Love (by Marianne Williamson)

Rho

Perspective's Corner is launching today!!!

2011-05-20T01:35:00.000-07:00

Today's guests:

Terry Ellis (1/4 of the R&B super group En Vogue)

...and Nelson Smith (Motivational Speaker, Author and host of The Rant and the Rave blog radio show)

Daytime broadcast at: 10am (PST) and 1pm (EST)
Evening broadcast at: 7pm (PST) and 10pm (EST)

Hosted by: www.letstalkyall.com

See you there!

Rho

'ASK RHO' #37! Detoxing and Sleep Deprivation

2011-05-17T23:02:00.000-07:00

'Perspective's Corner' first show on FRIDAY!!!

2011-05-16T14:45:00.000-07:00

Letstalkyall.com is hosting this web-based radio show, featuring some of our favorite celebrities and personalities in the entertainment field, sports world and business/wellness communities. Hear my guests and I talk about the peaks and the valley's in life. We'll 'get lifted' and 'go deep' discussing how to Live BIG.

Join me Friday with my special guests: Nelson Smith (Motivational Speaker, Musician and The Rant and The Rave blog radio host)... also meet and chill with Terry Ellis (1/4 of the R&B super group En Vogue)!

Are You Addicted To Drama? What's Got Your Attention?

2011-05-13T11:16:00.000-07:00

As a society, due to the consistent infatuation with reality TV and the so-called news, we seem to increasingly get enjoyment out of watching and hearing about 'other' people dealing with their demons and short-comings in public. There's been a steady rise in exploiting peoples pains for our entertainment. This desensitized way of looking at life and holding people in contempt of their past is so prevalent now-a-days that it's created a habit. A habit that can also distract us from looking at the reflection of pain and demons in ourselves.

Is it easier to point to the finger, judge and laugh at other peoples mishaps than to take account for, and manage your own? Do you think that by focusing on that kind of stimuli on a regular basis, that it's influencing how you behave in your own environment, thereby causing and continuing problems in your own world?

It's been said that 'what you focus on, you can become'. Where we give our attention can inspire the best and/or the worst in us. Allowing ourselves to indulge in drama can breed you to become it. Some of us don't even realize that we're addicted to drama. Until you break your pattern, you can get stimulation and excitement in your physical body every time drama comes around. The more you do something over and over again, your body will make automatic neural (nervous system) associations that will strengthen its response with each reinforcement. Try going a day without judgment/criticism... even an hour. It's quite the exercise...

We can get so locked in to judgment, criticism and negative thinking, that it becomes a natural and trained response instead of love. Being that “repetition is the mother of all skill”, be careful what you practice. This behavior can influence you to become bitter, insensitive and inflexible when responding to life. It can travel throughout your business and personal affairs causing division, relationship loss and blown opportunities. Drama can also keep us in the blame game. It falsely leads you to believe that you're not in control of your choices in life, and distracts you from taking responsibility for yourself.

Once you choose things like harmony, peace, love, connection, bliss, authenticity, joy, etc... you start to realize the disruptive effects of drama in your life and the world we live in. Does less drama sound boring to you? Are you willing to experience the other side of it to see what's most beneficial for your living? I remember being more attuned to drama than peace at one time. I decided though to make a conscious choice to connect in a more harmonious way to my environment and the people in it. It has given immeasurable value to my peace of mind and quality of living ever since.

If you're ready to kick the habit... try this:

Change your focus- change what you're giving your attention to. Focus on things that will bring forth more positive reinforcement; books, CD's, mentors, positive family and friends, comedies, nature, etc... Do this consistently to break your pattern. We are creatures of habit.

Change your language- change what your talking about, how you're talking about it, or just drop it all together.

Be willing to forgive- Contempt, regret, anger, judgment, criticism, etc... are very powerful emotions that can keep you in a viscous cycle of not allowing a new beginning. Change is an inside job, so start with forgiving yourself. It's difficult to extend to others what we can't extend to ourselves.

I encourage you to experiment with love and the emotions and traits attached to it. Lending your attention to that instead of drama, could be just the turn around you're looking for in leading a more enjoyable, connected and peaceful existence.

Live well,

Rho

Hear Brandy Norwood's interview coming soon to 'Perspective's Corner'!

2011-05-10T15:05:00.000-07:00

Be sure to tune in to 'Perspective's Corner' NOW to hear Brandy's perspective on growing through challenges and living BIG ;-)

Two More Powerful Interviews for 'Perspective's Corner' Web-Based Radio show

2011-05-09T12:17:00.000-07:00

Thank you Crush for a wonderful interview... I encourage everyone to visit http://juicehugger.com/ Meet the man and his philosophy behind the product.

I just had a fabulous interview with Tony Gaskins for 'Perspective's Corner'... Be sure to tune in and hear his wisdom... from the streets to spiritually conscious living. Powerful interview...

More Guests to come at 'Perspective's Corner'!

2011-05-06T09:01:00.000-07:00

Brandy Norwood... Singer/Entrepreneur

Djehuty Ma'atra... Metaphysician/Dherbs.com

Tony Gaskins... Author and Motivational Speaker

Darren Grant... Director of over 80 music videos and hit movie "Diary Of A Mad Black Woman"

Jason Edmonds... hit R&B group After 7 and Rolling Stone restaurant (Hollywood)

JC Chasez... The latest interview for 'Perspective's Corner'!

2011-05-05T13:53:00.000-07:00

Set for a launch in May, this web-based radio show, 'Perspective's Corner', is FULL of what life is about... Featured at letstalkyall.com (under renovation)

'ASK RHO' #36!

2011-05-03T23:46:00.000-07:00

Giving Spree! Being abundance... Do You Want To Join Me?

2011-05-03T18:53:00.000-07:00

Abundance is everywhere, all the time. Where is your attention?- Matthew & Terces Englehart

So I'm on a giving spree! For 42 days, I'm finding a way to give some form of supply (abundance). Here at the blog, I will be offering free books from my home library for the month of May ;-) I will showcase a book every day. If you'd like that book, or have any other requests for a specific topic or type of book, leave me a message at askrho{at}gmail.com, and I will send a book if I have it!

If you'd like to join me on this giving spree, try finding a way to give something everyday for the rest of the month. You could buy someone a cup of coffee; or finally let go of those clothes you don't use; or cook a dinner for a friend; or a give a listening ear for someone in need; or pay someone's toll...etc!

This is a practice of giving and receiving abundance! Have fun with it... Let it open your eyes to the plenty we're surrounded by in life, and the gratitude that can lift the spirit. Who knows? Maybe you'll have an amazing story to share about how 'consciously giving' has impacted your life. If so, send your message to askrho{at}gmail.com, and with your permission, I might share it on the blog!

Live well,

Rho

Guests on Perspective's Corner! More reveals on Friday...

2011-05-02T22:23:00.000-07:00

Convenience over Responsibility - Animal Cruelty: The Harsh Reality

2011-04-29T08:16:00.000-07:00

Hey, hey... So I recently posted a video on my Facebook page that got some interesting responses. It inspired me to shine a little more light on a tough subject. A lot of us are used to what we're used to, right? Breaking that pattern, or getting information that challenges our comfort zone can immediately send up our defense mechanisms and cause us to unconsciously and consciously lash out to save our position. So with that said, I approach this conversation with as much care and compassion as I can.

I grew up eating meat and loving it; from chitterlings, to ribs, to chicken, to steak, to fish, etc... I've enjoyed the connection it's brought between family and friends; not to mention how delicious the meals were. I've since continued to expose myself to more information and open the door to more understanding when it comes to energy, love, balance, harmony and more of the inner-workings regarding life and the things in it; to align myself with more powerful living. It's been one heck of a voyage, full of epiphany's, harsh realities and loving resolves. Because of my dedication to self empowerment, I've been able to think and see outside of the social programming we all can be subjected to. I chose to allow in new information, and to expand my ability of being more compassionate to different points of view. In doing this, I continue to be exposed to broader perspectives; and sometimes, those perspectives carry the weight of unfortunate revelations...

In this day and age, the information highway (Internet) has been a blessing and a curse. The dissemination of negative news can spread faster than the positive a lot of times. Once it's out there, someone may never get an opportunity to stop an unfortunate event from being exploited. On the other hand, it (the Internet) has created space for some pressing issues, like the exposure of animal cruelty via the institutions responsible for our food supply to be revealed. They're not able to sweep this issue under the rug as easily as before. I'm choosing to also be a voice in spreading awareness of what could be looked at as an atrocity.

It can be comforting to turn the other away, put on blinders and ear muffs; even act like it's not there to protect the convenience of not having to take any responsibility for our contribution (even in ignorance) to the issue. Well I'd like to share with you some thoughts on the subject and give you some things to ponder...

Someone recently shared with me that they agree about not supporting animal cruelty. However, they said that they were more concerned about humanity right now. "We're in trouble!". I explained that it's all connected. They said, "how?"

Here's my response...

1. A lot of people are avoiding this kind of gruesome reality. Initially I cut out all meat except fish for healthier living... now I've even cut out fish because ethically it shook me to the core what's going on in the food industry. The lack of respect and reverence for life is astounding. I also subscribe to the understanding that everything is energy. These animals live in a constant state of fear, hopelessness, worry and even pain; then we EAT IT! Why wouldn't that kind of stress effect animals (flesh, organs, blood) just like it does humans; and the nutrients we're supposed to be getting from it? It would seem that because of the adverse conditions it causes in the animals, the nutrients would be blocked anyway... We're eating animals of a low vibration which effects your clarity and physical anatomy. The abuse inflicted on these animals is horrific in my humble opinion. The level of responsibility to this has gotten lost in translation.

2. These are beings as well... just because we can exercise more intelligence 'over' them, doesn't mean we're right. Nature is about balance. The unnatural ways we're going about producing meat, and it's quick turn around is out of balance with nature. Also, the predominate energy and thought of animals is to treat them with less respect and reverence. They're God's creation too...

3. It seems that somewhere along the way, we as human beings, have allowed ourselves to get further away from the genuine, innocent care we had for animals as children. We've been programmed to believe in the propaganda thrown our way by the food and DRUG administration, media and lobbyist. The top 3 causes of death right now are Heart Dis-ease, Cancer, and Stroke; with Pharmaceutical drugs on a steady rise...hmmm why? We're out of balance with nature! On top of that, we're disrespecting the animal kingdom... Our bodies are unnaturally taking in these 'conveniences' for society and it's killing us.

They said... "Do you think the problems comes from what is injected in the meats?"

A lot of meat can be treated with chemicals now (hormones/antibiotics). It seems that "the problem" is fostered by a lack of information to the public, and a fundamental disconnect from our heart space towards the balance of nature.

I wish each of you the best in making a decision that serves the greater good. It's not about perfection, just awareness and hopefully making better choices.

Suggestion: we can show more respect for the lives of these animals and buy our meat from farmers who CARE. If any of you are looking for support in being more informed and finding out how to enjoyably eat without meat, I can make some recommendations and/or send you to some links loaded with information and alternatives.

Here's to conscious living...,

Rho

'ASK RHO' #35!

2011-04-27T11:48:00.001-07:00

Perspective's Corner to be launched in May!!!

2011-04-25T20:52:00.000-07:00

Perspective's Corner is a web-based radio broadcast, showcasing some of our favorite celebrities/personalities, sports figures and business community leaders. In a relaxed and down to earth setting, the show is aimed at getting the more candid side of our guests in these fields, while sharing their personal stories in relation to the 'topic of the day'. We'll be exchanging advice that helps to expose us all to more of our potential along the way. We're gonna “get lifted and go deep” talking about the peaks, valleys and plateaus of our unique journeys. It's a format that's being showcased on letstalkyall.com (under renovation), which is set up to support our artists by reporting performance royalties (ASCAP, BMI, SESAC) just like your local radio stations. It's a new wave of radio and I'm seizing this 21st century approach for blending two of my passions, Entertainment and "Personal Power" Coaching.

'ASK RHO' #34!

2011-04-19T23:43:00.000-07:00

What To Do When What You're Projecting On The Outside Just Ain't Cuttin' It...

2011-04-15T13:04:00.000-07:00

Are you one of the people always smiling, acting like you've got it together, even though you feel like crap on the inside? How about the lot of us trying to keep up with the Jones's in our appearance while struggling to keep things together? (a figure of speech that's basically saying: you're projecting more than you have) ... I think the phrase 'fake it till you make it' can be a great tool in getting us to stretch our imaginations to support our greater potential and possibilities. However, if we're not taking some 'sure footed' and self aware steps in the direction of that projected attitude or possibility, we run the risk of not really connecting with the feeling and manifestation of its truth; and possibly becoming a prisoner of this inauthentic way of being. It also can keep you searching for fulfillment on the outside which could lead to a feeling of inadequacy on the inside. Finding a delicate balance between your projected reality and the one you're truly experiencing can be tricky sometimes. How can we make sure that we're still able to be comfortable just the way we are in the meantime of going for that grander vision of what we choose for ourselves? Sure, smiling in spite of what could be going on within or around you can be great, and once you allow a more healthy/authentic you behind it, it can come from a more solid place. Let's explore some thoughts...

How comfortable are you with who you are? How much inner wealth have you discovered and developed? How often are you looking outside of yourself for approval and a defining of your self worth? If you're one of the many out there feeling the adverse effects of being too outer referred (constantly looking outside of yourself for approval), then maybe these next suggestions are for you.

1. Remember that we're being constantly bombarded with media propaganda (advertising/news) and social programming (the environment, society, the accepted norm, tv...etc) telling us that we're not enough, or that we need to buy these products so that we can measure up, or that if we don't have the latest thing we're just not cool. So, in these moments, it can be good to remember that we have more power than we might think when it comes to being in control of our environment and the stimuli we allow ourselves to indulge in. It's an opportunity to step outside of this blinding, mediocre and common box long enough to choose new thoughts, new friends, new programming, etc... Ask yourself: How would I like to think and feel? Then, start surrounding yourself with the things and people that can support that answer.

2. If you're dealing with feelings of physical inadequacy, try doing something called "mirror work". Basically, it's when you stand in front of a mirror (full length could be great) and start to consciously accept yourself. I did it with my skinny legs and whatever else I could find on me that I wasn't so crazy about. It could be looked at as an affirmation or incantation (a statement you can repeat that feels real and you can embody as your truth) For example: "I'm grateful for my long and strong legs (I may not have thought they were cute at the time, but at least that was a true statement). I continue to blossom into an even more beautiful me." The last sentence puts me in a state of allowance for improvement in my outlook and it leaves room for me to continue blossoming into more of my physical potential. Both statements are real enough for me to believe, and help to create a bridge to more self acceptance. I made this practice a habit, and now I do feel better about my appearance today! When you focus on something, things can naturally fall into place to support the truth of your focus. It may subconsciously encourage you to work-out, start taking better care of that area, and/or look for ways to enhance or improve so as to match your statement.

3. Seek out your core group of people that you can be you around. When we have an understanding of where we can get real support from, it could reduce the anxiousness of trying to be liked by strangers. Having a solid network of support can help you with your balance.

4. Admit that you have needs and find ways to give them a healthy outlet. Most people are reluctant to say that they have needs because we don't wanna be looked at as 'needy'. Everybody has needs. We might act like we have it together, when underneath we're crying out for attention in different areas. Needs will drive our behavior until we take care of them. Are you feeling a need for security, or power/influence, or achievement/attainment, or intimacy/love...etc? It's OK. Do yourself a favor and discover where in your life you might be unfulfilled when it comes to needs. Write down your top 5 needs and brainstorm ways to take care of them. For example: if you're feeling a need for appreciation, maybe volunteering could help because you can receive love and acknowledgment for your service. If you're feeling a need for power and influence, maybe a healthy outlet is to become more proactive for a cause in your community, workplace or church. Find a healthy outlet for your needs so that you can start living from a deeper place like your values and purpose.

5. If we all have the same things and are keeping the same pace, our world would lack flavor and character. Do you want the things you want because you 'genuinely' want them? Re-examine where these desires are coming from and possibly open yourself up to a fresher perspective. Maybe you want things because of your parents, or friends or something else saying that you need it to look or be important. Are you willing to see your current situation and find the good? Can you see where it adds to what you have to offer the world and let it strengthen your confidence in your uniqueness?

6. Learning how to be more in control of our emotional state is a very powerful thing to do as well (check out my blog post relating to the subject by clicking on 'self improvement' to the left of the blog). Acquiring the tools to handle and understand your emotions better, can also develop a more genuine and successful you.

7. KNOW THYSELF... the more you continue to develop and heal from within, the more authentic and fulfilled you can be. Help yourself allow forth a more comfortable you in the areas of 'self worth' and 'personal integrity' by nurturing your spiritual growth and sustaining a good mental diet.

Give yourself the gift of your more authentic you starting NOW!

Sending out encouragement for your journey,

Rho

Thank You For The Beautiful Support!

2011-04-14T15:24:00.000-07:00

“Ask Rho”

By: TyLeishia Douglass

April 13, 2011

You give out so much even when

you’re busy through and through

What a blessing you are to many like me,

so it’s time I give back to you

Experiences have taught you to be thick

with strength. Patience and kindness

you display largely with great lengths

The quintessential essence of your gifts you have

so unselfishly shared with the world,

brings a lot of gracious smiles when

life throws hurricane twirls

This is just a thank you note for

all the responses and the time

you took to share, which really shows

the true effervescence of your loving care

The weekly blogs are aspiring and really

helps me to grow, but if I have

a question

any question, it's

good to know that I can just ask Rho!

Ha! LOVE THIS! This was wonderful to receive... Thank you for your thought and care Ty ;-) xo

Rho

Outtake from 'ASK RHO' #33! ...For My Die-Hard MMC'ers!!! xo

2011-04-13T19:11:00.000-07:00

Check out the full length video for 'ASK RHO' #33 below!

'ASK RHO' #33!

2011-04-13T19:05:00.000-07:00

Brilliant Pianists!

2011-04-09T11:53:00.000-07:00

I’ve found genius in these featured artists. Prepare to be dazzled, sucked in and amazed… Let the incredibleness begin!

Rho ( Miss R&B )

Oscar Peterson... astoundingly amazing, genius at his craft, compared to the greats of all time, yet is a great in his own right...

Bill Evans… wonderfully talented, beautiful touch to the piano and totally in the music

Art Tatum… a pioneer and inspiration to a lot of the greats, insanely good, with a flare all his own

Ahmad Jamal… so fabulous with his finesse, great ear and wonderful musician

Thelonious Monk… unique playing style, madly talented and eccentric

The Ultimate Blogger Contest!!!

2011-04-07T23:57:00.000-07:00

Thanks for your support and vote!